You know the pattern. You've been here before. Different person, same ending. Different job, same exhaustion. Different choice, same regret. This isn't about fixing yourself. It's about seeing the loop clearly enough to choose differently.

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Which Loop Are You In?

Answer these 3 questions to find out which pattern is running your decisions right now.

1. When something isn't working, you usually:

Stay longer, hoping it'll change if you just give it more time Try harder, do more, prove your worth through effort Wait for a sign or more clarity before making a move Get close to change, then sabotage or pull back Research more, plan more, need more certainty

2. What scares you most about making a big change?

Finding out it really was never going to work Discovering you weren't actually needed or valued Making the "wrong" choice and regretting it Actually getting what you want and not knowing who you are without the chase Not having enough information to guarantee success

3. People who know you well would say you:

See the best in people, sometimes to your own detriment Give too much and don't ask for what you need Overthink everything and struggle to pull the trigger Start strong but rarely finish what you begin Need to have all your ducks in a row before you move

Inside The Playbook

Here are 3 of the 5 patterns. Download to see them all + what to do instead.

The Hope Loop

You stay because of what could happen, not what is happening.

You keep dating someone who "has potential" but never shows up consistently. You stay at a job because they said things might change next quarter. You invest in a friendship that only exists when they need something.

What to do instead: Start tracking evidence, not potential. Make a list of what's actually happened in the last 30 days vs. what was promised.

The Overgiving Loop

You mistake depletion for devotion. If it's hard, it must mean something.

You're the one who always plans, always reaches out, always accommodates. You tell yourself it's because you care more, but really you're afraid that if you stop performing, you'll discover how little is being offered back.

What to do instead: Pull back for one week. Don't initiate, don't fix, don't chase. Notice who reaches for you and who doesn't.

The Avoidance Loop

You call waiting "trusting the timing." You call indecision "staying open."

You don't apply for the job because the stars aren't right. You don't have the hard conversation because you're "processing." You don't make the call because you're waiting for a sign. Meanwhile, nothing changes.

What to do instead: Set a decision deadline. Give yourself 48 hours to choose, then move. Indecision is still a decision — it's choosing to stay where you are.

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