10 Questions to Ask Tarot Cards About Love and Relationships

10 ‌Questions ‌to ‌Ask Tarot Cards About Love and Relationships That Get You Clarity, Not Confusion

"Do they love me?" you wonder. You pull a second card to follow up. Then a third. Twenty minutes later you're wondering if the Two of Cups negates the Seven of Swords.

Sound familiar?

When you're emotionally vested it's easy to turn a tarot reading into an effort to get the answer you're looking for. Picking a better question can help you leave with something that's useful, as opposed to something that leaves you spinning your wheels.

These 10 questions to ask tarot cards about love and relationships are designed to help you gain clarity about your experience, identify patterns, and determine what you need to do moving forward.

1. What do I need to know about this connection at this moment?

Use this question when you don't know what to ask. Use it to reflect on what you're experiencing between the two of you versus what you're actually experiencing in this relationship.

2. Where am I conflating possibility with truth?

Possibility and truth are different things. This question is an opportunity to reflect on where you may be blending hope with reality.

3. What need am I hoping they'll fulfill?

What need are you hoping to be fulfilled? Whether it's companionship, consistency, reassurance, or validation that you're the special someone, naming it can help you understand why this connection is so important to you.

4. What pattern am I repeating in my love life?

Perhaps you find yourself overgiving or failing to communicate boundaries or putting energy into people who remain unavailable. This question is a chance to reflect on patterns and determine where you would like to choose differently.

5. What am I failing to see because I want this to work?

Because you may be experiencing incredible chemistry, it may be more difficult to acknowledge incompatibility. Allow yourself the space to reflect on what feels good and what doesn't feel good.

6. What boundary would help me feel more stable?

You want a reading that will help you identify something. Whether that means asking them to communicate more clearly or to slow down or to determine what you're willing to tolerate in uncertainty, a good reading will help you identify something actionable.

7. What conversation do I need to have?

Sometimes you just need to ask the question that will get you the clarity you're seeking. "What are you looking for?" or "Can we talk about what's changed?" use the reading to help you prepare your response before heading into the conversation.

8. What would need to change in order for this relationship to meet my needs?

Whether you're asking yourself this question about your current partner or about an ex that you'd like to reconnect with, use this question to determine what change would look like and what evidence you would require in order to feel satisfied.

9. What is keeping me attached to this relationship?

Love, history, hope, loneliness, and unfinished business all can play a role in what keeps us attached to a relationship. Using this question can help you understand what you're clinging to and why.

10. What is the most helpful next step that I can take?

Use this question to wrap up your reading. Determine one thing that you can do. Whether that means communicating a need, establishing a boundary, taking time to think it over, or giving a new connection some space, determine one actionable thing that you can do moving forward.

How to Get More Clarity Out of a Love Tarot Reading

Pick one or two questions that resonate with your situation. Write down what you think the reading means. Ask, "How does this connect to what I know based on their words, actions, and my own experience?"

Tarot can help you reflect but it can't tell you the truth about what someone is feeling or what someone may do in the future. If you find yourself pulling cards and feeling more and more confused, take a step back and check in with what you know.

Need Help Untangling a Confusing Connection?

You don't have to have all the answers.

At Spiritual Strategist, I offer relationship-focused tarot readings that allow you to reflect on mixed messages, patterns, and confusion. Bring whatever situation has been on your mind and we'll work through what questions you have and determine what next step you can take when we're done with the reading.